Once upon a time, in a life far, far away, I was working as a psychologist participating in research for anxiety and depression. I had 2 young children, ages 4 & 1, and I was trying to juggle it all; work, relationship, family, community. At some point, I believe it was as I was falling asleep on my precious clients while they were confiding in me (!), I realized that I was dropping the balls. To quote Gary Keller, founder of Keller-Williams Real Estate in his book The One Thing, “Work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. The other four balls – family, health, friends and integrity – are made of glass. If you drop one of these, it will be irrevocably scuffed, nicked, perhaps even shattered.”
I knew that dropping my family, my marriage, or friends, was a non-starter, and I didn’t have the energy to get through my days. It was time to set work aside and narrow my focus. I was privileged to be able to have the option to stay home, but, me being me, I began volunteering even more time away than I had spent working!
This busyness left me feeling physically terrible. At the time, I wasn’t doing anything to add energy, I was only depleting energy from my body and spirit. I continued to feel tired, foggy brained, stressed. I was short with my kids and less than loving with my husband. This was NOT what I anticipated when I had decided to stay home. Eventually, I could no longer ignore what I had been feeling were the lowest priorities on my personal to do list: proper rest, healthy eating and exercise. As I began to nurture my health amazing things started happening. I had more energy, I was less stressed, I felt more loving and giving. I still volunteered a lot, but I felt so different. I was calmer, more patient, even more creative. The difference was, I was prioritizing my wellness needs in a non-negotiable way. Health first… everything else after. This was the gas I needed to put in my tank in order to keep driving forward in a healthy way.
Fast forward many years, kids in college, time on my hands. I knew I was ready to return to work. That was the ball made of rubber, bouncing back. I decided to become an integrative health coach, marrying my therapy skills with my newly found love of all things wellness. Work is now bringing me fulfillment on so many levels, challenging my mind to grow and fostering creativity. This time is different because I now have a foundation of personal of wellness on which to build my professional well-being. I have the energy to serve my clients with enthusiasm and caring, and fuel left over to further my own personal growth and development. And where is that taking me? Spiritual growth.
Please consider, I am not a religious person, but I deeply feel the value in understanding my life as connected on so many levels to the world around me: family, friends, community, people I may not even know but who may be suffering, or just walking a similar path; nature, the universe, and a universal energy. I access this part of me through a daily practice of turning inward through meditation, gratitude, and, a positive mindset; and, through fostering connections with the world outside of myself. I actively work on nurturing my relationships with family and friends. I volunteer. I spend time in nature. I say YES to all kinds of growth opportunities. I go
to events to support friends. I recognize tiny acts of the universe pointing me in the right direction. I recognize that I am small yet powerful and that my life’s energy ripples out to affect others, and I try my hardest to make sure it is positive.
What I’ve stumbled upon, through my own journey, is a conceptual structure for healthy wellbeing: body, mind and spirit. I call it Finding Fabulous. Taking care of our bodies with rest, nutrition, and movement provides a foundation of energy to get through the day and to fuel a positive mindset. Caring for our minds with cognitive challenge and taking time to foster creativity provides enthusiasm for work and inspiring others. Nurturing our spirit through connecting with self, loved ones, nature, volunteerism, and a greater universal energy provides enjoyment full of purpose, inspiration, self-acceptance, and love. You can transform your wellness by creating and prioritizing healthy habits in these three areas. Constructing an, energetic, enthusiastic and enjoyable life is totally within your grasp. It’s not about being perfect, just a little better every day. Start with one tiny change and build from
there. Before you know it, you will have found fabulous.